BLACK AND ME

My favourite colour is black. I like it because is an amazing colour and contrary to general opinions, it makes me feel happy. Some people find this awkward and believe that black is not a colour. To me it is a colour that gulps all other colours with such elegance. It is the grandest of them all because it portends power, authority and control. It is all embracing and goes with anything. I have been attracted to black as long as I can remember. There is just something about that colour that appeals to me… perhaps the mystery associated with it. When I go out to get a pair of shoes for instance, I first reach out for a black pair. If I happen to go with a friend of mine who is bound to say …Not black again, I may look for some other colour. I just love the strong nature of black…so silently bold. Black tends to down tone bright colours (which I don’t like) and goes with almost anything. Ignoring all the negative connotations like death, sadness or evil, associated with black in many cultures, black is a very magnificent colour. It is very formal and gives me a kind of confident sensation. I am very comfortable when I wear a least one black item on me. It gives me a feeling of intensity and perception. I have always loved a full black outfit…black on black on black. I occasionally go for other colours but they must be on the dark side like brown, navy blue, grey and maroon.

WEDDINGS

I like the movie, My Big Fat Greek Wedding because I understand how Toula felt about her wedding. Even after the church marriage, before she gets to the reception hall, she still wants to go off somewhere. I just don’t feel the hype about weddings and would like to avoid it… if that is possible. Someone called it wedding jitters…but how can you get jitters when you don’t have the wedding hype. As I am required to have a wedding, I want it to be very quite and nice but it not that simple because there are too many people and factors to consider. I know that most women are groomed to dream about their wedding day... but I feel differently. Yes it is significant but it is just one of the many things that God has in store for life. I don’t like the hype about it anyway. As far as I am concerned, marriage is what matters most and boy do I want to get married!!! There is a general attitude and belief in Nigeria that people who go to a registry or court have something to hide. I however believe that that kind of marriage is usually quite. Getting married is about what you and your partner wants. I believe that you should show respect to your family especially your folks but sometimes it is just so exhausting. Another reason why I find weddings boring and such a waste of time is because of the general bandwagon approach and tradition. It is so usual that I just want it to be done and over with so that one can move on to more interesting things like life and marriage.

TRUE FRIENDSHIP

I believe that true friendship begins with respect and has no regard for personality and temperament. It is mindless of character and develops to point where envy suddenly vanishes. Its existence stems from deep and real love that comes from the heart. It is an amazingly dedicated love from God that makes you want to go an extra mile for another person. True friendship lifts you up and requires an attentive ear. With time it eliminates doubt and builds into an unending trust. Sharing and caring makes true friendship ever true. True friendship demands genuine sensitivity to another’s hurt, pain and stress despite no communication. Culture and religion does not hinder true friendship. It is a special gift from God. When you discover it, one is certain of it because of its naturalness and profundity. It beats the imagination and understanding of many; a beauty to behold and ought to be experienced in a life time... if you find it cherish it with all your essence.
This piece is dedicated to my best friend for so long .... Nkiruka Ohale

HELPING THE DISADVANTAGE

In helping the disadvantage, we must have first identify and understand who they are and what their needs are. Then with wisdom assist in any way possible, bearing in mind that you don't need to let the whole world know of your kind act or expect gratitude in return. Just see a need, fill a need!